Insight at the Insight

Last weekend I attended my first Insight at The Lair on the topic of erotic knife play. I decided to go out of curiosity mostly. I didn't have any particular interest in knife play and wasn't really sure how it could figure into a BDSM scene, at least apart from cutting, which is an area that I am not ready to even think about exploring.

But what the hell. A chance to meet people, have fun, learn something new, and hang out.

Going to these things alone is always a little daunting, but after a while of looking around and acting casual without, you know trying to look like I am acting casual, I said hello to a few people, got to talking and generally felt welcomed by people. New places are always a little bit tricky, especially when you are stepping into a well established community.

I met the presenter ahead of time and introduced myself. I had mistakenly confused him with someone on FetLife I had been having numerous conversations with (after a half hour of chatting he told me he wasn't actually on FetLife, but by then it we were already clicking well enough that I didn't feel too bad about the mistake). I think my combination of eagerness and inexperience amused him.

The lecture he gave was fantastic. Humerous in all the right ways. A dry, dare I say, cutting sense of humor. He spoke with enough authority that you knew he knew his shit, but with a level of ease of comfort that made it easy to ask questions.

I found myself growing more and more intrigued, especially as he worked on the demo model. I started to get the erotic part of it. I also liked the mind fuck elements. The fear. The helplessness and vulnerability it produced in some of the girls who were trying it out.

In the end I was really glad I went. I learned a lot about knife play, but even more about myself. It was a great demo and I even walked away with two free knives.